Sometimes when I tell people that all I see myself doing is writing, directing and producing movies, they always raise their brows in disbelief and ask me, “So, what are you doing in Law school?” Like am I not supposed to go to an art school, more like a movie school since it’s my dream? Why waste my time and money studying a course that I won’t practice? But then, are we not in Nigeria again? Here, most parents don’t give a damn about the dreams harbored by their kids. They are so obsessed with their kids studying one professional…
Author: Sarafina Ann Nneoha
Welcome to Nigeria, A space where people take up the role of a judge, passing judgment on you without even getting to know you. It’s so easy for us to make judgments when we are standing outside of the situation. We spend so much time policing people around us. Like, there are laid down societal expectations one must abide to and then you wonder, are we not all humans capable of making our own decisions? If you are a married lady and there is this perfect understanding between you and your husband, they will call him weak for sheepishly bending…
There is this friend I had; she had a boyfriend that disrespected her a lot. They started dating from our first year in the university; he was her first love; she had her first sex with him; they virtually did everything together. With time, it was as though the romance dwindled. We were in our final year when my friend discovered that her boyfriend was actually cheating on her. On confrontation, the guy bluntly denied. Aside the fact that the guy started being sneaky, he stopped being the kind of guy my friend fell in love with. He stopped calling…
“…a man is not determined by how much he earns. You can still be a man of the house and earn less than your woman. Being a man is not what you have, it’s who you are. Being more of a man doesn’t mean your woman has to be less than you…” Some weeks back, I was reading Trevor Noah’s “Born a Crime” when I came across the above paragraph. It actually piqued my interest and I was like, “Do most Nigerian men understand that being more of a man doesn’t mean that your woman has to earn less than…
As ladies, most times we come across guys that make us feel like the only girl in the world. They show a lot of interest, blowing hot, sending messages that will leave us blushing like idiots and giving compliments that will make our head swell. But then after sometime, the attention suddenly vanishes; after all the warmth and love shown in the beginning to get our attention, what these guys do next is to go cold turkey – the calls, the messages and attention ceases. If you are a lady and you have experienced this, there is no doubt that…
Bad Sex Year in 2018? This is How to Make Your Sex Life More Fullfilling in 2019 For those of us that had a bad sex year in 2018 and want to improve in 2019, below are the steps that will guide you. For ladies, we complain a lot about men who hardly pay attention to our needs. There is no doubt that we love foreplay a lot but most times the only thing the guy wants to do is to go in, pour the sticky liquid and pull out. For men, their usual complain is that we ladies are…
