There is something about Nigerian mothers that make them very interesting. The traits they display most times sometimes make us wonder if they all attended one secret school. There was a time a mother displayed one attitude that got me annoyed but when I told a friend about it, her reply left me dumbfounded. She said, “Well, that’s Nigerian mothers for you”. She went ahead and gave me examples of how her mother does the same thing I just complained about. Honestly, it’s like these set of creatures think and act the same. Well, I took my time, did a…
Author: Sarafina Ann Nneoha
When in a relationship as a lady, one of the best feelings you can ever feel is when your boyfriend is both faithful and loyal to a fault. Faithfulness and loyalty are something we value a lot in our partner and ourselves. However, being loyal doesn’t just mean that your partner is not sleeping around. It’s more than that but how would you know? Keep reading to find out the signs that show that your man is truly loyal to you. He never hits on other women; Imagine you are hanging out with your man in a bar and then…
Have you ever looked at some slim people and wondered why the heck they stay effortlessly slim? Well, sometimes it could be their gene. I have this friend that no matter how much she eats, she never adds weight. Some people put in a lot of work to stay slim and I think I am in this category. Let me share some of our secrets; We don’t skip breakfast; Breakfast is an important meal and skipping it would not aid your weight loss. According to research, people who skip the morning mean tend to consume more calories at lunchtime. We…
In this journey called life, there is no doubt that we are bound to pass through some experiences that will drain our positive energy. As a girl, you might face some heartbreak; most guys would have played football with your fragile heart that you find it difficult trusting any guy; you believe that nothing good can ever come from any guy; they are all the same. Your mind irks with so much negativity that you find it difficult to believe that people could actually be happy in their relationships. But truth is that before getting the right person, most times…
These days, it’s pretty difficult to come across a lady who doesn’t own a wig. These products are lifesavers. They are great for those days when you need to rush out of the house and go about your business without worrying much about hair underneath. They are also great for those days when you return home tired and in need of fresh air. All you have to do is pull off your wig. There is no feeling as amazing as that. I am not the wig type though. I prefer braiding my hair but it got to a point where…
You clicked to read this post because you are perhaps a single lady who is not getting enough admiration from the male folks; or you are dating but it seems as if your lover has lost interest or you are just curious to know what makes a lady more attractive, whichever is the case, you are in the right place. Without much ado, let’s go straight and point out some attributes men find attractive in women or rather how you can stay attractive as a lady. Stay in shape; Staying in shape does not mean you have to be a…
It is a new year and as usual, a lot of us have made our resolutions for the year. For me, that was the first thing I did on the 1st day of the year. I spent some alone time together and made a list of what I hoped to achieve before the year ends. But the problem is not in writing or making resolutions, the problem lies in keeping them. A lot of us make resolutions but don’t keep to it or rather we tend to forget about it a few months into the year. The question now is,…
Being productive is usually easier said than done. And this is a problem I am constantly dealing with. I mean, there are days I wake up and tell myself that I am going to achieve a lot but end up talking and making excuses as to why I didn’t do the things I had planned for the day. I am pretty sure that I am not the only person having these issues. Some of you constantly talk about wanting to do something but yet never do it. If you are in that category, here is how to break out of…
It is a brand new month; a new year and a new decade. Who else is as excited as I am? While most of us were at the church firing prayers to usher in the New Year, some were in clubs, parties, home, etc. Wherever you were, it’s a new year and here are the things I wish for you this 2020. I wish you let God into your life and allow him to guide you through the unknown. No matter the uncertainty you are facing right now, I hope you will learn to trust the process and understand that…
Did you recently cheat on your lover? Or are you in the middle of one? If you are in any of these shoes and you have a conscience, chances are you are full of guilt and looking for a way to deal with it. I have been there, you know. There was a time I cheated on my boyfriend. Like, not once, not twice. And during those periods, my heart was heavy with guilt. How could I have done this to him? What would be his reaction when he finds out what I have done? Would this relationship come to…
These days, a lot of us hardly pay attention to our mental health. We are all caught up in the rush-rush of our lives that we hardly take note of some of the habits that are negatively affecting our mental health. Looking back to when we were younger, we didn’t have a million things on our minds. But as we got older, we get bombarded with more responsibilities, and to cope with this increased burden, we sometimes take on habits that are bad for our mental health. Whether we are aware of them or not, it’s important that we…
So, I recently stumbled on Tobi Bakre’s post on Instagram. According to the former Big Brother Nigeria Housemate, three things can only be achieved by one’s self and they include – confidence, contentment, and happiness. Here is what he wrote; “Confidence, Happiness, Contentment, 3 things you can only achieve on your own. It’s never an easy ride. There will be trying times and moments of failure. But life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy it all. Soak in the good and the bad. It’s okay to fall but you gotta stand right back up. It’s your journey so stop…
Recently, I discovered that a whole lot of times, most of us concentrate on being kind to others. We all want to do well to other people, help and provide for them. We do all these to our detriment – we forget to be kind of ourselves. You see, life on its own is already stressful enough, hard and challenging, so there is no reason why you should not be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself. I mean, life will become lighter and your relationships…
Are you in a relationship with someone? Do you usually feel crushed and smothered? Are you usually second-guessing yourself, your perceptions and your memories? Do they often make you wonder if you are going crazy and oversensitive? Oh well, I am here to tell you that you are not going crazy sweetheart. No, you are not. I was once in your shoes. There was a time my boyfriend usually made me feel like I am going crazy; that my emotions were not valid. Anytime I told him something he did or is not doing and how I am not comfortable…
Hi, lovelies, it’s Saturday and as usual, I have a racy question for the guys in the house. What is your spec when it comes to ladies? Do you like them slim or chubby? You see, there were times when I thought that guys would always find chubby girls less attractive – than being slim rocked because guys would be all over you. There are so many reasons why a guy would prefer slim girls – First, cuddling them is usually bliss – her body just fits into yours. Again, while in the other room with her, you don’t have…
A lot of times, some of my male friends have approached me asking why it seems as if they don’t appeal to any lady. They try so hard to get into the dating game yet no luck; no girl is even giving them green light so they are left feeling as though something is wrong with them Well, this is me telling you right now that there is nothing wrong with you. Perhaps you are not employing the right tactics or rather you are not dateable – you are not someone a lady would meet and think to herself, “Oh…
I hope you don’t beat yourself up for the goals you set to achieve before this year ends but here you are with the year almost over and you have not achieved much. I hope you are not so focused on the things that you have not achieved. I hope you pause for a second to think about how far you have come, your growth no matter how little you think it is and the lessons you have learned. I hope you will be brave enough to see past your fears and go pursue that which God has instilled in…
You see, love is a mystery. It is one thing I know that can’t be explained no matter how much we try too. It is elusive and looks different for everyone. Some people claim you’ll just know when it happens. There will be no doubt in your mind. But people still leave relationships and realize they weren’t actually in love. They simply mistook a different feeling for what they think love must feel like. Even though there is no way we can really explain what love is, there is still room to give instances you might mistake for love. Keep on reading…
You see, there are times I am so excited and energized. Like, my energy is so pumped up. I am excited about my dreams, my achievements, – I even go ahead motivating and encouraging people not go give up on their dreams. There are days I feel like this and there are days I am so wrapped up in sadness and worry. There is no vibe to do anything. I feel really numb. And one statement I usually make whenever I am in that mood is this, “Ann, this is just a phase and it will pass”. This life is…
While I was strolling online yesterday night, a post caught my attention. In the post, a Ghanaian actress and producer, Tracey Boakye advised young single ladies to be smart, milk and gain financial benefits while in their relationships. She made this known in her interview with Zion Felix on the “Uncut Show”. The actress emphasized that ladies should try as much as they can to milk any man they are dating. She actually went on and stressed on how people will never extend a helping hand to these ladies if they fail to make good use of their relationships. When…
Imagine you met this guy online. He loved your crazy posts and doesn’t waste time re-tweeting or sharing them. He finally finds the courage to slide into your DM. He didn’t start the chat like any regular guy would. So, he catches your attention, you check out his pictures, he looks dope with beards to die for. He tells you how much he loves your posts and how he looks forward to reading something from you every day. You smile and thank him for being a loyal fan. Then you guys hit it off with regular chats and calls… Days…
There are days when I feel lost and tired of the hustle; I get tired of the constant grinding; I get tired of not making a head way in my career. On days like this, a simple motivational video usually gets me to my feet. And I am not the only one that feels this way. I mean, in today’s world, it is easy to get access to a lot of motivational quotes, posts and videos. It could be on YouTube, iTunes, social media, or gatherings. While watching tons of motivational videos and reading lots of motivational posts may fire…
Few months back, my boyfriend and I hit the rock bottom in our relationship. It was as though we were falling apart, the spark was gone and we were barely trying to keep the relationship going – the calls and chats dwindled, there was no excitement whenever we spoke to each other. At a point, I thought that maybe it was the distance that was affecting us. I suggested that he traveled down to the state I was which he did but still, didn’t change anything. In fact, it got worse. Throughout the few days he was around, w quarreled…
When most people think of domestic abuse, the first thing that comes to mind is likely verbal abuse and physical assault. But what about financial abuse? Oh! You think a partner can’t abuse the other financially? Well, keep on reading to find out some of the signs that show how most people abuse their partners financially. They tell you to quit your job; I am sure you know that is a common story. A man who is probably suffering from low self esteem because his wife earns more than him suddenly tells her to quit the job and focus on…
So you have been in the dating game with your man for some years now and because you are not getting younger, you are wondering whether this man you are giving your all will settle down with you at the end of the day or if you are just wasting your time with him. Well, you can as well stop worrying and keep reading to find out the signs that your guy is ready to settle down with you – if he’s showing you a few of these signs, it means he’s almost definitely ready. He makes you his priority;…
These days, when a relationship goes south, everyone is quick to blame the guy. Like, it is presumed that all guys are cheats but what we fail to realize is, ladies cheat too. In fact, they are the worse cheats. A lot of innocent guys have really fallen for their tactics. Funny thing is, before a break up occurs as a result of a lady’s infidelity, the guys must have sensed that something is wrong but it is usually difficult to confirm without coming out and asking. Well, here are some of the ways you can tell if your girlfriend…
So Ghanaian actress and media personality Joselyn Dumas, took to her social media handle and shared her 2 cents on relationships. Speaking on marriage, the actress stated that those who are in fact married are not married because of their good behavior. Here is what she wrote; “Being married is not a reward for a great character and being single is not punishment for a bad character.. There’s a lot of women with real questionable characters but have amazing marriages and there are a lot of amazing single women out there…”. When I read that post, I couldn’t help but…
Our popular politician and essayist, Fani Kayode recently reacted to the viral video of Pastor Wilson eating a woman’s vagina. According to the politician, there are certain places pastors are not meant to put their tongues and that vaginas are certainly not one of them. Speaking via his Twitter handle, he further described what the pastor was caught doing as ungodly, unacceptable and utterly disgusting. When I came across this tweet, I chuckled and I kept wondering what makes pastor Wilson’s act ungodly and disgusting. Because he is a pastor? I think the fact that someone is a minister of…
Do you even realize how difficult it is dealing with you? Like, I have to go to work with you, jump all Lagos danfo buses with you, deal with annoying friends, colleagues at work and boyfriends that never understand what it is like bleeding from your genitals. Most of these bros can’t empathize and I know it’s hard for them. You tell them about the abdominal pains you are having and they go, “It’s your monthly visitor na. It’s normal. You will be fine”. No bro! Stop telling me I will be fine. Make me fine – or maybe you…
Hey guys! The weekend is finally here. Let’s shake things up a little! I have a racy question for the guys in the house. The question is, how fancy do you find waist beads on your woman’s body? The other day I made a video of myself dancing in my room, posted it on my WhatsApp status. In the video, my waist beads were sort of obvious. So, one of my friends replied telling me how much waist beads turn him off whenever he is about to get down on a girl. It sounded really weird hearing such from him…
