Author: May Ebute

I once wrote an article, asking people what they would if someone very close to them, got tired of hiding their sexuality and came out of the closet?  I had totally forgotten about it only to check my mail one day and there was a mail from someone whom I don’t know, thanking me for the article. He is gay. He has faced some form of rejection as a result of his sexuality. I felt a wave of two emotions as I read.  Happy that I was able to make someone smile with my article and sad that someone was…

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A relative of mine had arrived at Makurdi late, from a journey. Their vehicle had broken down at some point along the way. Hence their late arrival. That year, there was a curfew on bikes from 7pm. So his best bet at going to his house was with a commercial bus. At the time he arrived, there were very few buses plying his route. He had stood for almost thirty minutes when he saw what he thought was a bus. He flagged down the vehicle. When it got to where he was standing, he realised with dismay, that he had…

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I had just finished cooking dinner and because the room was hot, l decided to go outside to enjoy the cool evening breeze.  After sitting outside for a bit, a neighbour called my attention to something. l had to go to his room to sort it out. While at it, he began to complain of being hungry. I was busy so l asked him to take my keys, go to my kitchen and fetch some food from the pot. Surprisingly, he refused. He told me l was high on weed for daring to ask him to go to my kitchen…

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“Indecent dressing fuels rape.  It does big time. Those who deny this are rank hypocrites.” Those words caught my attention on an article l came across and they made me laugh. I will tell you why, later. Some time ago, a video of a group of Yoruba people, lamenting that the Igbos were buying up virtually every part of the mechanic village, in Lagos, surfaced on social media. It is not just a Lagos thing. In other parts of the country, people are angry that the Igbos are buying up virtually every part of the state. They argue that the…

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Within the week, the police arrested a certain Moses Moses who had confessed to the crime of murdering his friend and colleague, Abuchi Nwachukwu. The latter had informed his friend that his South African based elder brother, had sent him 13 million naira, to be used on a housing project in their hometown. After seeing the alert, Moses decided to kill his friend so he could have access to the cash. By the time he was arrested, he had succeeded in withdrawing millions of naira from the account which he spent on hotels and women of easy virtue. While l…

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For about a month now, a certain lady on Nigeria’s social media space, who claims she is an Ogbanje, with ties to river goddesses, has been a subject of criticism among social media users. She markets items that she claims can bring good fortunes to people and turn their lives around for the better. All they have to do is to carefully observe the rituals that come with each product and maintain positive energy. Her products which come in different categories, cost between #30,000 for a hand bracelet and #50,000 for a waistbead or body scrub which she claims are…

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I had just stepped out of my compound that morning when this beautiful metallic grey jeep drove past. It was driven by a woman. She had her kids inside. At that time, l was crazy about jeeps, especially when it was a woman behind the wheels. I have always wanted to own one so while I was walking, I began to picture myself behind the wheels of that beautiful car with my kids playing at the backseat. Deeply engrossed in my thoughts, I wasn’t looking where I was going until I’d struck my right foot against a stone lying on…

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Jane is on the big side. Her weight keeps getting bigger and bigger every single day. Five years ago, she was not this big. Initially, she used to tell her friends that it was a sign that she was eating well and because she was eating well, her body was rewarding her by adding flesh to itself, in the right places. She only began to worry when it seemed she was getting bigger at an alarmingly fast rate. From a healthy size, she was becoming what her friends jokingly referred to as ‘fatty fatty.’ After realising that her added weight…

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Exactly a week ago, the world celebrated the International Women Day. An article l had seen with regards to the event, formed the crux of my discussion with a group of ladies. One of us who had been silent for the most part, blurted, ‘’ l can’t believe l am still here eight years after graduation.’ She went ahead to bemoan the fact that after her service year, she had wanted to go back to school for her masters but was told to jettison the plan for a walk down the aisle with her Man. ‘You already have a degree.…

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A few days ago, social media was on fire with reactions to another controversial tweet from the twitter handle of Pastor E.A Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church Of God. It reads:  One of my sons once told me that he was always excited to resume in the office every Monday because he would get to see his secretary again. I told him to fire her immediately. Nothing and no one is worth your marriage. The tweet provoked a lot of outrage from social media users. A group of them wondered why the son was advised to…

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I first learned about Kayan Mata two or three years ago. Considering that l had lived virtually all of my life in the north, it came as a surprise to me that l never knew there was such a thing.  When translated literally, Kayan Mata means Women things. It is used by northern women to enhance love and intimacy. It is generally a mixture of herbs to make lovemaking enjoyable and keep the man asking for more. But from my discovery, there seems to be more about it than meets the eye. Susan, my colleague at work, had mentioned It…

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A colleague’s wife had just given birth, in the middle of all the excitement and well wishes, a lady looked up sadly and said, “Mrs. Xyz, you are lucky o. How l wish l was able to give birth naturally like you. The cesarean section l had makes me feel totally ashamed and incomplete. I feel like l am not a woman.” My friend’s sister in law had her first delivery via cesarean section. Time to have her second baby and she was filled with a lot` of trepidation and prayers. She wanted a vaginal birth. Her husband had not stopped…

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A very good friend of mine calls himself a humanist. It was pretty easy for one to notice his aversion to religion and God but in order to be sure, l asked him. “What is your religious belief?” I’d prodded. “Christian, Muslim, Traditionalist? “ “What do you think?” He responded. “I think you are an atheist. You sound like one who doesn’t believe in the existence of God.” “You are totally wrong,” he laughed. “I am not an unbeliever. I believe God exists but not in the manner most of y’all religious folks do. “ “What are you then?” “I’d…

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